Where do you find yourself?
In this article, I would like to make a distinction between two evolutionary classes: the Sleeping-Around-Man or the Decent Man.
If you are at the beginning of the Game and if you are actively moving, some of these things will happen to you:
- You refused;
- You did not know how to continue the conversation;
- You’ve had trouble managing some situations with women;
- You got out with some women you liked and you had sex;
- You’ve had some beautiful interactions with women, and those who have left you a stupid smile when you’re back home;
- You’ve felt that sense of omnipotence when you’ve been pushed beyond your limits and you have realised they’re just imaginary.
Let’s say you’ve achieved a fair success, though it may not be steady. And here we begin to talk about differences. A lot of guys are anchored to the result:
They do not interpret seduction as a lifestyle but as a way to get the result, so even to get there, they invent the most disparate strategies.
Some say that he is an engineer, who is a family of entrepreneurs, who is a freelance, who is able to have sex with everything and even if he does not breath anymore at least still hot.
I’ve seen who gets caught up in the woman’s sweetness and femininity, who is so prey to the phobia of abandoning that attack before being attacked, who is living together with a woman but neglecting seduction, getting leisure himself and afraid to lose his woman for the fictitious security that the girl gave him.
This, apart from the inconsistency of their images, leads to a heavy cognitive dissonance, which makes him live with tension.
Do not make peace with themselves. They must find pretexts, means, dummy family status not to show their true individuality.
And when your desires and thoughts are not in line with the actions you do, you will never be serene and man.
There is a beautiful psychology principle that says, “to get something you have to bring the need for it.”
This “Sleeping-Around-Man ” thinks that Sleeping is the goal.
When they do it, they have won and so they are needy of that.
And this leads to a vicious cycle that is self-generating and self-energising as the entropy of the universe.
Remember this very well, women do not solve your problems. No one.
You are the one who solve them.
Women do not even improve your life if you are not men enough.
And this brings us to the second typology:
The Decent Man.
Man is a seducer.
In the broadest sense of the term, after a fair number of women, you are able to understand that two pairs of breasts are always two pairs of breasts, one backside is one backside, then you make an evolving jump. Do not seduce all women to pump up the ego. Do not get intimate with all women just because they want it.
Because, if after 5 years you still have emotions for that, you are not a seducer, you’re a failure.
And here’s a key point: although a beginner must (repeat: MUST) have a lot of sexual experiences with women, to make a turn of quality and become really a Man, he must understand that it is not essential to fuck a woman , until you decide it.
I’ve always annoyed this seduction style: “She is agreeing and then have sex with her.”
There is no fundamental point in the sentence: what do I want to do?
This is what a Man has to wonder.
No grant to every woman.
Does not make quantity.
It is very similar to a lion with a full belly, although being a fearsome predator can decide whether or not, to save the ignominious prey. When I started thinking like this, I had amazing results.
There is no more seductive word for the woman than a NO.
If you have a full belly, you have a satisfying sex life, it’s very easy for you to say to a woman: “No, tonight I don’t have the feeling to have sex.”
Obviously, if you do not have a hypertrophic ego and do not think too much on the “results”. Or, while knowing her on a place, say to her that you will maybe meet her again right there. Inspiring the doubt in her head “Serendipity movie style”. Using the same coin against her, she feels destabilisation. She does not understand why you do not want to have sex and improve herself. Because you’re still a Man.
Choice is one of the most powerful weapons for a man.
Choose what to do with a woman and whether to do it. And when you will do it without even thinking about it, you will become to her the most dominant man because one of his most powerful weapons in her arsenal, his femininity, is completely cancelled.
You are a demanding person and you want a woman who stimulates you before having sex. Why should you become intimate with her? Because she is a woman and everybody does like that?
This is the message that must be understood.
IN Attraction Staff