How to Leave the Past Behind
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there are a lot of interesting conversations and some of them is easy to understand how people are influenced by the experiences they have had in the past.
However, analyzing deeper always emerges a victim attitude. If we analyze the most common causes of complain, we can subdivide them into categories:
– The relationship with the parents.
– The relationship with women.
– The society’s morals, or the commonplaces.
Let’s start from the first: The relationship with parents
Parents are undoubtedly a key player in development from child to adult. They are the ones who must in the very early stages of the baby, ensure survival and make him/her feel protected and loved.
Utopia: I’ve never heard anyone to have perfect parents.
Most parents always criticize their children by saying, “Do not understand anything,” “Do not study enough,” “You’re getting fat,” “It will not work,” “Your girlfriend, if you will find her, will have to be very patient” and so on with a series of negative judgments.
There are hyper-protective parents whose son is already a forty-year-old man that instead of throwing him out of the house, they keep him, asking what he wants for dinner (of course, he must grow) and rolling his blankets after having controlled that under the bed there are no monsters.
In the first case, the one in which parents are preaching, in fact, are criticizing their own side. It is not uncommon that when a parent tells a child not to study enough, probably, the parent has not even finished middle school. But there are people who even after they understand this, continue to believe on that and do the victims to apologize to their failures.
Obviously being a failure, at least in the short term, is much less tiring than raising the ass.
If you too are doing it, do a favor to yourself: slap your own face .
In the second case, the hyper-caring-parents are even worse. Trying in every way to keep their son in the house making their own evil, and even make bad things of their son.
A good parent must be able to give all the tools to his son to get him out of the house as soon as possible because otherwise he/she is not a good parent.
The right thing to do is let your son go and your son must to go away.
Let’s go to the second: the relationship with women.
Try asking someone who has a happy relationship and how many unhappy relationships she has got in the past.
People will hurt you almost always, but thinking that the world is disgusting because you have got some bad experiences, it’s not wise.
First, it is because the absolutisms are always wrong and secondly, you will let win who have hurt you.
I have seen men who were not even aware of their phobia of abandonment. They lived in a prison in their heads. They were slaves.
Do you want to be men like this?
If you see a boxing match of a great champion, you will see that he does not aspire to be punched, and he does not even try to dodge them at all costs.
Indeed, most boxing champions take a punch because they know that while the opponent pulls him he is not in balanced. By taking their punches, they have the chance to get into his guard and kill him. It’s part in a boxing to get punches. This makes you stronger. A true champion is not who never gets a punch, but who is willing to take them to win.
The society’s morals or the commonplaces.
The third point is the morals of the people.
You have to understand that most people do not even know what they are living for.
He does not have the slightest awareness of himself and the world. No wondering.
You wonder why. You may look different but in the long time will definitely be a bonus.
Giving you an example, when I was learning to approach and seduce women, a lot of acquaintances laughed and criticized me. But now they ask advices from me.
The problem as usual is that they criticize one part of them. They will be telling you their subjective reality.
Your reality is different.
And you do not have to betray yourself; what you think needs to be accepted.
The core of the question is always the past.
But what is the past?
Does not exist.
When you see the core of the problem, you will examine it. You will see that slowly it melts like snow in the sun.
In this moment, you can decide whoever you want to be. To be cool with women; To be a successful person; Just decide who do you wanted to be.
Do you want to keep following of your past?
The brain works like this; it tries to foresee the future by looking at what had happened in the past.
It is a sort of survival instinct.
Remember that what give a direction to our lives are never the events we are expecting to, but rather the exceptional events that come in and twist it.
IN Attraction Staff