How to Face Fear: Practical Tips
How to Face Fear
“Without fear, there can be no courage.”
I do not remember where I heard that but no doubt this phrase hides a much deeper meaning than what may appear.
If we assume that we are all afraid, in 6 words would be expressed a very truthful concept, “Fear is part of a human being without exclusions which I fully agree.”
Let us all put our souls in peace; FEAR belongs to the sphere of emotions that every human being perceives in the course of his life.
Take a moment to think about how many things you are afraid at this moment.
You could start from the fear of failing a college exam, having to give an unpleasant news to someone, afraid of being “discovered” for something you did (…). However, turning it over, in so many moments of your life, you have been practically forced to live with fear of something. This could have happened or not; you have been very scared of something like this.
So, you are human.
Nobody born invulnerable and fearless … but, at the same time, nobody forces you to pass your whole life in a glass bowl.
Because, with the same simplicity with which we born, we die.
But we never die as we were born. How do I consider fear? As an altered perception of reality, that’s it. Nothing more, nothing less.
Do we want to further simplify it? Fear is nothing but an immense, cosmic, “mental paranoia”.
Just as when you fix on your aesthetic defect, thinking that the whole world you interact with, know it, or when you avoid talking to your boss about your problems, with the fear that he can fool you and fired you. BEING AWARE OF SOMETHING THAT HAS NOT YET HAPPENED IS ANOTHER MENTAL PARANOIA. And the first one to suffer psychologically speaking is “YOU”, All of us.
We are the main artifacts of our inner ills and fear is the evidence.
I would say it sound masochistic.
Why do I consider it an altered perception? Because from the moment we do not know what might happen (or we can only have a vague idea), our brain begins to work out a series of non-existent but possible scenarios for which all the information we have received, leads us to have a vision of what, only conceptually, could happen. For good and for bad.
If from the beginning the scenery stimulates us, and we feel it “safe” and feasible, then the problem does not exist. If little by little the scenery turns into something unknown, for which we have no past experiences or we have had negative, then come the fear of what could happen, both in the realization of a positive scenario, rather than a negative one, the alteration of reality occurs.
In the second case, it hurts because it made the feeling bad. AND ALL THAT IS UNKNOWN IS SCARY.
It is scary because it is out of our control and our comfort. “Life begins at the end of your Comfort Area”. It is not just a Face book’s saying;
In it, there is another truth: DEFEAT THE FEAR BY FACING IT.
Only in this way, it would be possible to understand how true it really was. In the altered view of what might have happened … and in its fear, I assure you most of the time expectation is totally different from reality.
Because it “makes us comfortable” to be afraid.
Because, in doubt, “it is better not to risk” to face what scares us.
Because, basically, we are a fool.
When you come to the conception that only by dealing with fear, you will find that there is nothing “of which to be afraid”, you can say that you have added more value to your life. For any experience you’ve faced, leaving your comfort, defeat your fears, you have learned something new. By now, it’s part of you. Now harmless. What you have faced does not scare you anymore and the same fear proven to something stranger has made you grow.
Reality and rationality always win on the impulses dictated by the emotions when in the face of nothingness, we risk being lost and inadequate. The important thing is to be careful not to be carried away by seeing something that has not happened yet. Just because it did not happen yet.
And if we remain firm to look the fear that may happen, we would give us unnecessary torture in one (only) useful life. But what else characterizes a person who in his path of self-healing begins to overcome daily fears?
Basically, two factors which are often ignored by those who see only dangers around it: HABITS AND LIVED EXPERIENCES.
Have you ever wondered why your friend is so jaunty talking to the women?
Or why do theater actors do not look nervous while they recite to hundreds of people?
Or why a beekeeper does not run away to the sight of a bee, which turns in his hair?
HABIT. Get used to dealing with what scares you EVERY day. Do we want to say that “courage” derives from habit? Also. Not only. But also from that. Life poses challenges every day. Do not be afraid and meet them. Get used to doing so.
From which it comes the harder it is to face a fear, emotionally recording that LIFE EXPERIENCES and it will be easier than to clash with any kind of daily fear with mildness.
A Marine who has lived the war certainly does not impress the sight of a spider in the room.
A university lecturer with three graduations certainly does not get into subjection while giving lessons to high school students.
The intense past experiences fortify and allow you to juggle the smallest daily fears.
But if you do not strive to face the worst fears, you will not even have a worthy comparison for the milder.
At the end of this speech, I want to make it even easier. Because the concept is an absolute banality, but just because it is trivial, it is always neglected.
On my experience, everything I fear which does not jeopardize my life or the life of others, is not a justifiable fear. But only a wrong thinking that with the due decision, must be tackled and treated for what it is.
The only certainty we have in life is that one day or another will end.
Once this reality is accepted and metabolized all daily fears which do not affect life duration, are only a very big limitation.
And they should be thrown forever.
The Risk? routine life and monotony.
IN Attraction Staff